Hugs Are (Not) for Everybody!
Ella Russell
Illustrated by Udayana Lugo
Owlkids Books
March 18, 2025
Age 3-7

At a magic birthday party full of both cuddlers and the squeeze-averse, an enthusiastic young guest learns that not everyone is comfortable with hugs in the same way. Hugs are for hello and goodbye. Hugs are for celebrations and congratulations. Though hugs are not always welcome. Some prefer a wave, a high five, or a bum-shaking secret handshake. As the party continues, she learns that all she has to do is ask to make everyone feel safe.

Russell gently explores boundaries and respect in this sweet and simple picture book for pre-school to early elementary years that reunites the cast from Pink is For Everybody! She centers themes of consent and body autonomy in a comfortably familiar setting, with characters in non-threatening scenarios, like arriving at a friend’s home and wishing happy birthday. Lugo amplifies the theme of individual preferences with a cast of diverse backgrounds and personalities, and a variety of layout styles showcasing different types of engagement. Her engaging watercolors, candy-hued palette, and expressive faces capture both the joy of the party and the anxiety of some partygoers. Instances of onomatopoeia and clearly delineated dialog lend themselves to exuberant storytime inclusion and will make the shiest kids feel seen.

A wholesome tale of consent that makes introducing this often sensitive topic a piece of (birthday) cake.